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Janet Abrams

Birth Date: 1953-04-28
Deceased Date: 2008-12-11
Obituary:
JANET KAROSCIK

Janet Abrams Karoscik a graduate of Staples High School, died at Norwalk Hospital on Dec. 11, 2008, of esophageal cancer.

Karoscik graduated from Staples High School in 1971 and Smith College in 1975. After graduation from college, she served in the Peace Corps in Equador and Paraguay.

Karoscik worked at several jobs in education and home care after returning to Fairfield County, until she and Eugene Karoscik were married, after which time she was a home-maker.

She is survived by her husband, of Norwalk; her mother, Dorothy Abrams, of Westport; her brother and sister-in-law, David and Cantor Audrey Abrams, and their children Rachel and Sally, of Minnesota. Karoscik was predeceased by her sister, Judith Abrams, and her father, Arthur Abrams.

Funeral arrangements are being handled by the Magner Funeral Home in Norwalk.
David Abrams - September 7th, 2022
In Loving Memory of Janet Karoscik April 28, 1953 - Dec 11, 2008 God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Magner Funeral Home
Tony Akey - August 25th, 2022
Janet attended Burr Farms Elementary (the best one in Westport by far) and I had a mad crush on her. For those few of us who went through the K-12 Westport system (Dan Woog, Steve McCoy and a few others from Burr Farms) we were lucky to get to know one another so well. Janet was a wonderful person. Smart, kind, everything you hope a person can be. At our graduation square dance party from Burr Farms I got to dance with Janet and we wrote often that summer when I went off to Vermont. Unfortunately some from Burr Farms went to Collytown while the rest of us went to the much better junior high, Long Lots! Janet was at Collytown and we spoke on the phone often in 7th grade. We drifted apart after that, and I am sure those of you lucky enough to be in school with her realized what a special person she was. Gone too soon, way too soon. Janet was the whole package. Rest in peace you wonderful soul.

Debby Allen

Tony Akey - August 29th, 2022
So sad to see Debbie has passed. I didn't really see much of her at Staples, but we were friends when we were in junior high. For some odd reason we called each other by the same affectionate nick name. Debbie was just the very soul of kindness and I'm sure those lucky enough to be her friend later in life miss her terribly. What a sweet person she was.

Walton Amey

Birth Date: 1953-02-01
Deceased Date: 2022-07-03
Obituary:
Written by Stephen Schneider, July 2022. In Memory of Walton William Amey

February 1, 1953 - July 3, 2022

The thing that made Walton "Walt" "Wallybill" Amey happiest was music. And with music, Walt made everybody else happy too.

The first time we ever saw him with his wild red hair and goatee, it was in our Hilliard dorm lobby at Ithaca College back in '71. He was playing Crosby, Stills and Nash's "Helplessly Hoping" on his acoustic guitar while singing the (hard!) middle part of the song's 3-part harmony with his naturally great baritone. His over-the-top enthusiasm was genuinely infectious. And you could tell the guy was happy. So, the other night, and although his hair and beard had turned wild gray in the ensuing 51 years, it was a joy to join him just as happily playing that very same song on his guitar... right up until just a few hours before he so tragically, unexpectedly, and suddenly died in the early hours of Sunday, July 3rd.

Now, don't get me wrong. It wasn't that that was the only song Walt knew. In fact, he knew thousands of songs. From Elvis to Dan Hicks to Leon Redbone to Steely Dan. He happily played them all his life because, well, music was his life's passion. And because he wanted to share this love with others, Walt got many reluctant music lovers to sing out ... and the unwary were likely to be cornered for an exciting lesson in music theory.

Walt was already singing in the Orphenians Choir and lead parts in Staples High School theatrical productions in his hometown of Westport, CT as a teenager. His high school band, Tribe, was better than some of the bands at Woodstock, no kidding. Then, at Ithaca College (where he majored in music/theater), Walt was playing with his high school pal, Brian Keane (who became a well-known guitarist and composer), when we first saw him in the Hilliard dorm lobby. I'm pretty sure the only reason they let me later join them in (the deservedly short-lived band) Bub Fuf & Jigs, was because I had a car with a trunk big enough to fit all the amps.

But the best was yet to come. For, despite the fact that Walt always hated the group's name (and was constantly in search of a better one), he next went on to lead Desperado, Ithaca's most beloved band. With Walt as dryly comic band leader and M.C., (he used to gleefully horrify audiences by "accidentally" dropping his "best" guitar in the middle of a soulful ballad) and the ridiculously talented Doug Robinson, Jeff Dowd and Carolee Goodgold beside him, Desperado made many people happy for a pretty long time. They even made a couple of pretty good albums: Desperado and Out on a Limb. (If you're lucky, I think you can still find them on eBay!) Walt's wedding bands played tons of happy weddings too.

Not surprisingly, like many working musicians before him, Walt liked the occasional vodka-tonic and never got out of bed before noon... unless it was to play tennis with his buddies in Greg Chapin's tennis club in Syracuse... guys who still loved Walt despite the fact that he regularly defeated them on court with his devious drop-shots, etc. (Walt was so competitive that - although his tennis record against me was 957 to 3 - it really annoyed him that I had somehow managed to win at all.)

Another thing that made Walt happy was the laugh of a good woman. And around 2008, Walt found one when I artfully reconnected him with Elizabeth Schenck, a thoroughly delightful gal we all knew back in college. She made Walt very happy... and he made Elizabeth very happy too. She turned him on to her Virginia friends (who Walt humorously called: "the naked communists") and they exuberantly embraced him too. They all happily went camping and sang at festivals and, I've heard, drank more vodka.

Walt and Elizabeth also grew to love our beach house in Atlantique, Fire Island, New York, where Walt - for some reason -- agreed to play in our dubious local band, appropriately named: The Disappointments. A rare character with a devilish Irish charm in his DNA, Walt made everyone here happy too. He came often and, sadly, this is also where he and Elizabeth were when he so suddenly left us forever to sing and play rhythm guitar for the big band in the sky. But at least he was surrounded by grand old friends playing guitars, laughing, and, yes, having the occasional cocktail. Our great friend, Wallybill, was happy right to the end. If you have to go, I'm hard-pressed to think of a better way.

Walt leaves behind his big sister, Margaret Smith, and her husband, Chuck, out in Des Moines, along with their two kids Caro (Colleen) and David (Nikki). He leaves behind his devoted Elizabeth, and her son, Emrys Juniper. And he leaves behind all his many musician pals, tennis pals, camping pals, his adorable pooches, all the couples that were fortunate enough to have had him play at their weddings, and all our loyal band of "Hilliard Hummers" from the historically under-achieving Ithaca Class of '75.

Walt always used to say: "Good is good." He was talking about music, mainly, but I think he was also really talking about life. He knew what was good when he had it and, thanks to everyone mentioned above (and many more), he had it. A lot.

And because he was so good at making everyone happy, I'm pretty sure people will happily be telling Walt stories for as long as we still have old Desperado albums for sale... which is to say, for a very long time to come.

Well, that's about it. In lieu of sending flowers, just put on some good music, find a bottle of vodka, and pour one out for Walt.

Stephen "Schnitz" "STEVE" Schneider
Peter Rolnick - December 11th, 2023
For some reason, Walton asked me to join him playing guitar and singing "No Tears for Johnny" at the Coleytown 6th grade talent show. He patiently taught me the guitar part and harmony. Since then playing and singing folk-y music, and trying to do it really well, has been a most important part of my life, and I owe him a debt of gratitude for getting me started. Walton was one of the "most cool" kids throughout elementary school, but he didn't seem to care at all about being cool, was always kind, and incredibly good at anything he did. I'm glad to have known him.
Bonnie Housner Erickson - June 29th, 2023
Written by Jim Lo, 7/29/22: I was asked, "What is your favorite spot on the IWU campus?" For me it is the 'prayer loft' in the chapel-auditorium. It is a place where I gravitate to when I need to spend time in the presence of God, early in the morning. It is a special place where I have had to ask God, at different times, for peace, joy, comfort, guidance and clarity. This morning I was there asking God to comfort my heart. Walt sang in choir and a special high school singing group called "The Orphenians" with me. Walt was an amazing musician and actor. He was one I looked up to. News reached me that he had "suddenly" died. The older I get the more I recognize the brevity of life. As I sat in the "Lo Loft" this morning, I cried out to God . An overwhelming presence of God's comfort surrounded me. The following words, from a poem I first heard long ago, came to my mind: Only one life, yes only one, Soon will its fleeting hours be done; Then, in ‘that day’ my Lord to meet, And stand before His Judgement seat; Only one life, ’twill soon be past, Only what’s done for Christ will last.
Jim Lo - July 30th, 2022
I was asked, "What is your favorite spot on the IWU campus?" For me it is the 'prayer loft' in the chapel-auditorium. It is a place where I gravitate to when I need to spend time in the presence of God, early in the morning. It is a special place where I have had to ask God, at different times, for peace, joy, comfort, guidance and clarity. This morning I was there asking God to comfort my heart. Walt sang in choir and a special high school singing group called "The Orphenians" with me. Walt was an amazing musician and actor. He was one I looked up to. News reached me that he had "suddenly" died. The older I get the more I recognize the brevity of life. As I sat in the "Lo Loft" this morning, I cried out to God. An overwhelming presence of God's comfort surrounded me. The following words, from a poem I first heard long ago, came to my mind: Only one life, yes only one, Soon will its fleeting hours be done; Then, in ‘that day’ my Lord to meet, And stand before His Judgement seat; Only one life, ’twill soon be past, Only what’s done for Christ will last.
Kevin Gralley - July 20th, 2022
Our last set (Longshore Country Club circa 1970, Walton Amey, Greg Overton, Jim Henderson, Kevin Gralley): Nashville Cats, Mr. Spaceman, Wake Me Shake Me, Sunshine of Your Love, Fire, Foxy Lady, Manic Depression, Hey Joe, Rain, Drive My Car, A Day in the Life, The Crystal Ship, Nothin’ Yet, Summertime Blues, House of the Rising Sun
Bonnie Erickson - July 15th, 2022
Written July 3, 2022. There are no words to aptly describe the sadness I feel in echoing Brian Keane's post about Walt Amey passing away in the early morning hours of Sunday, July 3. Many of you know from our recent FB posts that Brian and I went to Fire Island Friday to spend the holiday weekend with friends of more than 50 years, including Walt and his longtime partner Elizabeth. Saturday was a day filled with everything Walt loved: Spending time with people he loved who loved him back, incredible food, adult beverages, bocce ball on the beach, salty humor, watching Wimbledon, and hours of playing guitars and ukuleles and singing his favorite songs until 1:00 a.m. Within hours after that he was gone. As Brian mentioned, the cause is unknown at this time. In 1970 and 1971 Walt and I were in Choir and Orphenians together. As members of Staples Players, we shared the stage in Carnival, The Fantasticks! and The Time of Your Life during those same years. In a manner suited to Walt's wishes, we left the beach house and “walked him home” in New Orleans processional style, singing “When the Saints Go Marching In” accompanied by ukuleles, the women all singing and carrying umbrellas, all the way to the dock. Walt undoubtedly loved it. Walt will be missed by so many.
Brian Keane - July 5th, 2022
Some friends in life are so close, for so long, that they become part of your own history. My friend Walton Amey who grew up in my home town of Westport, CT is such a friend for me. A top athlete, a captain of the Coleytown Colts football team where we played together, a talented singer in the elite Orphenians choir in high school where we sang together (we were paid to sing in a church choir as well). We made mischief together, partied together, played in the same rock n roll band, and even served on community projects together. Walton was also a theatrical star in the Staples Players. After high school, Walt attended college in Ithaca, NY with me, along with David Barton and Linda Satin (also from the Staples Class of ’71). Walt and I were roommates in our freshman year (his mom described us as a “pig and a goat living together”). While in Ithaca, Walt and I played music professionally in coffeehouses and bars with our good friend, Stephen Schneider (a brilliant comedian who was our next door neighbor in our freshman college dorm). We were joined by our high school band drummer David Barton, who had transferred to Cornell from Antioch, and we wrote and recorded some memorable original songs together. Walt built on the success we had started in Ithaca after Stephen, David, and I left in 1975. He brought in the guitarist from our high school band, Jeff Dowd, and had a very popular band called “Desperado" with singer Carol Lee Goodgold. They recorded several records together, before Jeff Dowd left to begin his opera career in Germany. Walt continued playing music around the upstate New York area, and taught ballroom dancing at Cornell, developed a fondness for tennis, and lived a reclusive life in rural upstate New York for a time. In 1993, our former bandmate Stephen (“Schnitz”) decided to throw a surprise 40th birthday party in New York City for Tory Ruffalo, who had been in the same dorm with us freshman and sophomore year in Ithaca College. However, Schnitz surprised all of us by assembling many of us from our Hilliard Hall dorm, without telling any of us that the others were attending. From then on, the “Hilliard Hummers” as we derisively referred to ourselves, became an annual dinner event in New York (the one with the most miserable story didn’t have to pay for dinner). Eventually, that morphed into gathering for one weekend a year at a beach house in Fire Island that Schnitz had rented, and eventually purchased. Walton, David, Linda and I would get together most years with Schnitz and our fellow “Hilliard Hummers” Tory, Anita, Elizabeth, Hank, Jody and Don. It was a big chill weekend, no spouses, and we became like another family to each other over the years. Walton and fellow “Hummer” Elizabeth Schenck started what would be a wonderful relationship for both of them 14 years ago, living in Syracuse, NY where Elizabeth practices as a public defender attorney. Always a lot of fun, I would see Walt and Elizabeth every year at the Fire Island reunions and, starting in 2020, my partner Bonnie (who was in theatrical productions with Walton in high school) and I, started meeting Walt and Elizabeth, Schnitz and Anita, and fellow “Hummer” Hank Nelkin and his wife Yael on 4th of July weekends in addition to the reunion weekends. We gathered once again this past 4th of July for another weekend together. We played some games on the beach, watched some fireworks, had wonderful dinners, people drank, we played guitars and sang the songs we had written, the songs of our youth, and all kinds of fun songs in between. Schnitz had invited another great singer and friend of Anita’s and his, Deb Lyons, who joined us. We told jokes, and shared stories, and had a wonderful time. Walton, Stephen and I watched Wimbledon tennis matches past midnight after everyone else went to bed. Walton made Schnitz and I sing the perfect three part harmonies to some Crosby, Stills and Nash tunes, which we obliged him to get him to go to bed. Walton was in his bliss. Sometime after we went to bed at 1:00 AM, Walton got back up to get a snack or something. We still don’t know exactly what happened, but he was discovered at the bottom of the stairs at 2:15 AM. The EMS arrived ten strong right away, and were working on him from 2:30 AM, even getting a pulse back, but he lost that pulse on the way to the hospital. That very night before, we all had witnessed a spectacular sunset from the deck of the beach house (which had amazing views after having been lifted up in the air after hurricane Sandy), and I had remarked how lucky we were to be alive to witness this. Walt agreed, and expressed his gratitude also. When we got the official confirmation that Walton had died, we all knew that we had lost a dearest member of our family of friends, and an important part of our own lives. Our life history had been so intertwined. We spent the remainder of the day in a combination of shock, grief and "producer mode” dealing with things. We gave Walton the tribute that he had told Elizabeth that he wanted. We gave him a New Orleans style funeral procession on our way to the ferry this morning. Schnitz and I lead the procession and played “When the Saints Go Marching In” on ukuleles with Elizabeth, Anita, Bonnie, and Deb singing along, with umbrellas, walking in the sand as we made our way. At first, it was hard to keep from choking up. Then it transformed into something more joyful. It even got a little absurd as we passed a couple of Black families who looked at us like WTF? We just kept going to the ferry, and we all felt better by the time we got there. The crowd at the ferry appreciated it, too. In fact, Walton couldn’t have asked for much better a death than having spent the weekend doing exactly what he loved, with people that he loved, and who loved him, in one of his favorite places on earth, and then having it all end unexpectedly, and rather instantly as far as I can tell. Even though many of us will feel the pain, and the loss of Walton in our lives, we grieve for that which has been our heart’s delight. Walt made us all rich in life experience for simply having shared part of this glorious ride called life with him. He was part of what made our lives fun, and personal grief is mixed with a deep sense of gratitude for that. Walt Amey, February 1, 1953 - July 3, 2022. R.I.P. Walt is survived by his sister Margaret (Meg) Amey Smith of Des Moines, Iowa, his significant other, Elizabeth Schenck of Syracuse, New York, and the many of us who loved him and became like family with him.

Robert Barrand

Claudia Munsell Cook - July 21st, 2022
Mike - a great tribute for sure. He ended up at Clarkson College in Potsdam, New York - up near the Canadian border - and he did marry a woman he met at the marina - Heather. They had two boys together. I found out about his death from his younger sister in 2005 or so.
Mike Joseph - July 21st, 2022
Bob and I were best friends during the last two years of HS (’69 through ’71). He was Technical Director of the Staples Players, and I was the Audio Director, with both of us working on the productions during that period. Players is where we met. We had many interests in common, from skiing on trips to VT or to my girlfriend Suzanne Carreker-Voigt’s family’s little cabin in NH (where he would join me and Suzanne, accompanied by his girlfriend Claudia Munsell-Cook), to playing with his old tube stereo equipment, or trying to get his lawnmower engine-driven 6’ wide, doped-canvas DIY flying saucer hovercraft to skim across the huge field in his parent’s backyard. Many HS adventures were had. He helped me paint my $200 retired 1963 Studebaker Mail Truck a bright Halloween orange with black headlight trim – a color sure to get a teenager stopped by the police every day in 1970 Westport – which I was. Bob was technically very handy. Especially with power tools, where he seemed to be the master of anything he touched. In Mr. Georgis’s science physics class for our senior project, we built a ‘talking flame’ loudspeaker using a sodium-seeded oxy-acetylene welding torch flame, modulated with a very high voltage power supply (yikes!) and audio from Bob’s Sony tape recorder. It worked just fine. How many high schools would let two 17 year-old kids bring in big pressurized tanks of combustible explosives – which we lit on fire - without asking ‘What the hell is going on here?’ Permission? We don’t need no stinkin’ permission! Georgis thought it was grand fun, of course. Bob knew all about that technical stuff. It was in his comfort zone. He was also very resourceful in other ways. As a sixteen year old, he had approached the owner of Bozak Loudspeakers (an early 1960’s national Hi-Fi brand out of Norwalk) to ask for donations of audio equipment to the Players, thereby securing a now extremely coveted Marantz Model 9 monoblock tube audio amplifier. Along with Bob’s own Fisher tube stereo amp, we used that beast all through our ‘careers’ at the Players to amplify sound effects for the stage productions (e.g., Ondine, or Time Of Your Life’s pinball machine noises), using speakers we hid around the set. Somehow he also scavenged up an old Viking tape recorder, which we used as the source for our taped theatrical sounds. (There was an adventure in ’70 when we used that equipment to tap into the Auditorium’s campus-wide main intercom/PA system to play back a funny and weird announcement during homeroom period, but that’s another story for some other day…). You could often find Bob up a ladder on stage between classes, monkeying with the Fresnel lights hung from the lighting grid. He really loved his responsibility, and he was good at it. Unlike me, I don’t recall that he played a role in the actual productions (such as the script-following Lighting Director during the plays), but he really enjoyed his ‘backstage, pre-show, make it happen’ duties. Pia, Matheson and the other overlords gave us students a lot of freedom to explore, discover and create, and Bob and I certainly stretched that to an extreme. To wit: We both had access to the catwalks above the stage, where we could crawl across the Auditorium ceiling to adjust lights or run speaker cable. We could also get up there from the little cinder-block audio booth hidden in the ‘stage right’ balcony classroom closet, or from the main lighting/projection booth. That was a capability I used to good affect when I’d sneak into ticketed concerts (enter the building, go upstairs w/o approaching the ticket takers at the lobby entrance doors, use my key to get into the audio closet, crawl over the ceiling, climb down the catwalk ladder backstage, and walk out into the Auditorium through the wings), or secretly record many of the rock concerts produced at Staples during that period. Very sneaky. I wonder what my parents – or the school’s admins - would have thought if they knew we were 40’ above the floor, able to collapse through the ceiling with one misstep? Sadly, we lost track of each other after graduation. I went off in ’71 to Ohio University and he went to a small school in upstate NY to study engineering. I transferred to Syracuse in ’73 to be closer to my Westport/Dover Road buddies (Brian, David, Walt) attending the music program at Ithaca College, or at Cornell, at which time Bob, Claudia (also at Syracuse) and I briefly met up again. He thereafter dropped out of school and we lost touch as I went off to conquer the music production world in California. Bob was a very smart, hands-on type of guy, but college’s mathematical exercises were not for him. I later learned that he had returned to Westport, where unfortunately, working at Norwalk Marina, he lost his life in an accident. I knew little of the ensuing history leading up to that event. A marriage, a divorce, his work life, what he did for fun…? Bob was a great guy, a skilled technician, a creative builder, dedicated, helpful and giving, funny, and a very good friend. I hope he was happy during his time among us. – Mike Joseph, Lenexa, KS

Mark Bennett

Birth Date: 1952-10-10
Deceased Date: 2015-08-26
nancysolvin@gmail.com - August 12th, 2022
Mark was SO talented. We were in art class together as seniors at Staples. We caught up at the 40th reunion and I was looking forward to seeing him again. Sorry to hear about his passing.
Bonnie Housner Erickson - August 11th, 2022
Here’s an email sent to me in August 2016 by Mark’s wife of 18 years, Amy, just days before our 45th reunion: Hi, Bonnie. This is Amy Bennett, Mark Bennett's wife. As you probably are aware, Mark died last August. But I just wanted to mention that he sure enjoyed those reunions with all of you, and I know he will be there in spirit! Those friendships from Staples were meaningful to Mark. We were shocked when we received the diagnosis in November 2014. Mark lived a very healthy lifestyle, going to the gym 5 days a week doing spin and yoga, moderate drinking (other than at the class reunions!), we ate a very healthy diet and more greens than anyone in Brooklyn, and went to the doctor regularly. Mark did not have any symptoms until one night at home and went straight away to the doctor, but it was too late. Mark received treatment at Sloan Kettering and continued to work and go to graduate school for the 7 months after diagnosis, and died two months later. He worked at good health even while receiving treatment doing all he could to survive. The one year anniversary of Mark's death is in two weeks, on August 26th. I miss him immensely and am still grieving deeply. He was such fun and lived life in technicolor, in addition to having such depth of character. I am grateful to have shared 20 years together, 18 of those married. Esophageal cancer needs to be screened for by endoscopy. Please encourage you and yours to have it done at the same time that one has a colonoscopy. It's not routine in this country, yet. I am hoping Mark will be fondly remembered. Enjoy your reunion weekend! Amy
Arthur Corrigan - August 11th, 2022
Mark was a nice guy in high school. He was a very talented artist that’s what I remember

Alan Benzer

Bonnie Housner Erickson - October 16th, 2022
Sue Benzer Myers, Class of '74 and younger sister to Alan Benzer, Class of '71, messaged me July 16 to say she came across our new reunion website quite by chance. Intrigued, she paged through and realized from many of the pictures on the Memorials page that this was Alan's class. Sadly, she shared that Alan passed away in Sept 2021 after a months-long battle with throat cancer. I knew Alan from the music department. Pretty sure he played in the band all three years. Our hearts go out to Sue, Alan's wife Linda and daughter Sara, and the rest of the family.

Heidi Bernier

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Geoffrey Berry

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Lori Bigelow

Deceased Date: 2020-02-24
Obituary:
Lori Bigelow

Lori Susan Bigelow, age 66, died peacefully in her home in Wilton on February 24, 2020. Lori grew up in Westport where she first fell in love with gymnastics. She then went on to Keene State College and was the captain of the team. Several years after graduation, she joined the family firm of Bigelow Tea. She became renowned for her gift in creating some of the most flavorful and successful teas in the company's portfolio today.

Lori was a valued member of the USA and Canadian Tea Association for many years and retired from being the Co-President at Bigelow in 2006. She was instrumental in the Bigelow family's purchase of the Charleston Tea Garden in South Carolina in 2003. Today it is a thriving destination spot.

Lori deeply loved her niece and nephew with all her heart and was so very proud of them. She was also a wonderful and loving mother of many dogs over her lifetime. One of her favorite events was dressing up with her dog on Halloween and distributing candy to the kids in downtown Wilton.

Lori is survived by her parents, Eunice and David Bigelow, her sister Cindi Bigelow, her niece and nephew, David Bigelow O'Hara and Meghan Campbell O'Hara. She also leaves behind her partner, David McDonald.

Funeral services have been postponed and will be rescheduled at a later date. An announcement will be made when the new dates are determined. Visit www.shaughnesseybanks.com for updates.
In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in Lori's memory to the ASPCA, P.O. Box 96929, Washington, DC 20090, https://secure.aspca.org/donate/donate. Lori will be missed by all of us who were blessed to know her.
To send an online condolence, please visit www.shaughnesseybanks.com.
Kippie Shell - July 6th, 2023
Lori, I would like to send you thanks for encouraging me on on my gymnastics routines at Staples. It was a pleasure to meet you, and I enjoyed knowing you during our short time together on the gymnastics team. You were so positive and encouraging, and you gave me such confidence!! You are missed by many, but I’m quite sure, forgotten by none!! - Kippie Shell xoxos
Tony Akey - August 29th, 2022
My friendship with Lori was more before Staples, but I recall her with great fondness. Lori was just kind and funny. I remember for some reason riding bikes with her around her neighborhood with a few other friends from Burr Farms after we went off to junior high. I'm sorry she is gone so soon and I won't have the opportunity to talk with her at our reunion. What a genuinely nice person she was.

Sandy Bodecker

Fred Cantor - May 23rd, 2022
I lived just around the corner from Silverbrook during the years of Coleytown El & Jr High that Sandy’s home was on Silverbrook. He was unquestionably one of the cool kids and I was a bit of a nerd—maybe more than a bit. But that didn’t matter to Sandy; he was incredibly nice and I remember some good times at his house back then.

Sarah Bonner

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Stephen Budner

John Gaynor - November 10th, 2022
Steve was gifted. He helped us with homework and with our college entrance essays. Solving a math problem and memorizing history dates was his forte. He and his girlfriend were popular and were voted Best Dressed in senior year. Steve was also president of VSC (Voluntary Service Club)and organized many car washes for several causes. He had a red Mustang and would offer you a ride to do the beach Big Top scene. We had a lot of fun. After graduation, I went off to college and lost touch. I reunited with Steve in 2007. Shortly after which Steve moved to Spain with his wife, Sonia. We kept in touch via Facebook. He led a wonderfull life in Spain. Steve had just successfully reinvented himself and was working towards great things. I was shocked to hear from Sonia that he had past away unexpectingly. They say that God takes the good ones first.
Pamela Budner - August 23rd, 2022
Stephen Albert Budner, Jr. January 16, 1953 – September 14, 2021 For as long as I can remember my brother was always building things. The shelves of his childhood bedroom were filled with the plastic models of cars and planes he assembled. He spent hours in the cottage on our property we called the “Train House” building model train layouts for his Lionel and H.O. trains. When my daughter was born, he built a multi-story Victorian doll house for her, now enjoyed by my granddaughter. After graduating from Goddard College in Vermont he studied and worked with the Italian-American architect Paolo Soleri at his Arcosanti project in central Arizona--creating an urban ecology in the high desert. The two molten bronze bells cast on site there installed by my back door remind me of his passion for that project. While completing a dual degree in Architecture & Urban Design at Pratt Institute, Brooklyn, NY he competed in a design competition for the upcoming renewal of the Brooklyn Waterfront. The huge model was housed in one whole bay of the garage. How he got it in to Pratt I cannot remember! I do remember that received a Certificate of Excellence Award for that project. After graduating, he worked for architectural firms in Fairfield County and NYC, lending his design/build talents to both residential and commercial projects. In 2008 he weathered a protracted sabbatical driven largely by the Great Recession that followed the financial crisis which resulted in long-lasting unemployment for so many. And at the end of that year came the deep grief at the loss of our mother with whom he was especially close. But the chance to renew and rebuild followed before too long when he met his soulmate. A beautiful, wonderfully creative artist from Spain, Sonia. They married in Weston in 2013 and moved to Spain shortly thereafter. Found a great black cat they named Max. There on the Mediterranean, just south of Barcelona he continued to build. Handcrafting pergolas for their terrace, creating a rooftop plantscape he named “Sky Court." Building furniture for their apartment. His time in this place of peace and beauty with the love of his life was cut way too short with his sudden and unexpected death. I’d like to think that he’s listening to “Last Train Home," by Pat Metheny, building something beautiful, planting something green and bright in another place and time. Happy and at peace. Pamela Budner August 23, 2022

Nancy Burgess

Gwen Dwyer Lechnar - July 21st, 2022
My sweet friend. Met, and bonded, Halloween of 1955. Went to different elementary and jr. hi. schools, didn't slow us up: we each gained 2 bunches of friends that way, not to mention had 2 neighborhoods to roam and plunder on our "anniversary", Halloween! She brightened every room she entered and I miss her like a phantom limb.

Carter Combe

Bob Powers - September 26th, 2022
A solid guy--Brilliant and VERY funny. He was my good friend thru high school and beyond; gone way to soon--we lost a talented and gifted man.
Fred Cantor - May 23rd, 2022
It’s sad but in a way fitting that Carter and Jim are next to each other. Two guys who were among the best students in our class—and who went to Princeton together—but they never flaunted their brilliance. And both were always willing to be so helpful. Always! I was with Carter when he suffered a fatal heart attack in a basketball game at the age of 41. It was that night in particular that drove home for me the randomness of life. We had been enjoying ourselves in the pregame warm-ups—chatting about, among other things, the Knicks and looking forward to going to Madison Square Garden two nights later. And then, roughly 15 minutes later, he collapsed. I can assure you he was in really good spirits just before he died and I have always tried to take at least a bit of comfort from that.

James Conant

Obituary:
James Rand Conant, 60, of Brookfield, CT, passed away at home September 13, 2014 after a long battle with ALS. Son of the late Barton C. and June K. Conant, he is survived by his three children Daniel, Carolyn, and Jennette, his ex-wife Kathleen Creighton and her partner Joe Dolen, his sister Katharine Conant O'Shea and husband Donald, his brother Scott Conant and wife Joanne, and extended family James and Jimmie Conant, Kelly, Aaron, and Abigail Winn, Michael and Maya O'Shea, Barton and Carolyn Conant, Stephanie Conant, and numerous cousins. He was predeceased by his brother Keith.
Born on September 14, 1953, Jim grew up in Westport, CT. He studied electrical engineering at Princeton University, graduating magna cum laude in 1975 with a B.S.E.E. degree. He graduated from UCLA in 1977 with an M.S.E.E. degree. Through a career that spanned three corporations, Jim worked on radar seekerhead analysis and design, programmable signal processing systems for passive sonar, and software development and research, and came to hold two U.S. patents.
Active in the local community, Jim's volunteer efforts included coaching Math Counts at Whisconier Middle School in Brookfield, youth hockey, and soccer, and working for Citizens for a Better Brookfield, Friends of the Lake, and ALS-ETF (Emergency Treatment Fund). In addition, Jim was an avid ice-hockey player, water skier, and stock market investor, and was an excellent trumpet player in his college years.
Jim's passing on the day before his 61st birthday is a devastating loss to his family, friends, and the Brookfield community. He inspired us all with his courage, grace, and dignity while facing ALS. A reception is planned for Friday, September 19, at 10AM, followed by a memorial service which begins at 12PM. Both will be held at the Brookfield Congregational Church, located at 160 Whisconier Road, in Brookfield, CT. Jim requested that donations to ALS research be made in lieu of flower gifts in his memory. Donations may be made to the Massachusetts General Hospital ALS research clinic (www.mghcureals.org), the ALS Association (www.alsa.org), ALSTDI (www.als.net), or to Regional Hospice and Home Care of Western CT (www.regionalhospicect.org/donate/).
To light a candle of hope and remembrance please visit our website at www.CornellMemorial.com
Fred Cantor - May 23rd, 2022
It’s sad but in a way fitting that Carter and Jim are next to each other. Two guys who were among the best students in our class—and who went to Princeton together—but they never flaunted their brilliance. And both were always willing to be so helpful. I reconnected with Jim at one of our Staples reunions (which, I suppose, shows how wonderful reunions can be). Jim was getting to the point of winding down his business responsibilities when he received the terrible diagnosis that he had ALS. But amazingly he then had a group of us up to his home and took us out on his boat—which is one small illustration of the type of giving person that he was. I can’t say I believe in life after death; but I acknowledge I can be wrong about that and, if so, I can imagine that Carter and Jim will be doing their own 50th reunion salute to our years at Staples.

Corrine Delmar

Tony Akey - August 22nd, 2022
I first saw Corinne in senior year British History class. She was wearing a George McGovern sash and hat as she was campaigning for him at the train station before school began. I could not get over how beautiful this young woman was and sat silently in my chair, awestruck and certain she would never look my way. We actually became very close friends and spent a great deal of time together that summer before college with Dee Duffy, Mary Ellen McAndrews, Joan Monahan, Charlie Moulton and Dave Martin. Corinne was simply a wonderful soul and I cherish the memories our whole group made together. Corinne and I played tennis, went to a few Mets and Yankees games with the posse and just had a great time. She went off to I believe the University of New Hampshire and in the days before email we wrote probably 3 or 4 times a week. Corinne had outward beauty but her true beauty was internal. She was a dear friend and a kind soul.

Robert Delson

Deceased Date: 2018-11-06
Obituary:
Robert Delson, age 65, longtime Westport resident, passed away on November 6, 2018 after a long illness. He was a CPA and graduate of the University of Pennsylvania. Bob loved his kids, Steven (Katie) of Shelton and Michael of Greensboro, NC; and best friend, Wendy very much.
All services were private at the convenience of the family.
Jeff Grossman - September 20th, 2022
I miss my friend Bob every day. Like Tony Akey, I was honored to speak at Bob’s memorial service. Bob was larger than life in his personality and humor. I have yet to meet anyone funnier than Bob. I have also never met anyone as irreverent which he was always able to carry off in a charming manner. Bob, Tony and Bruce McArthur were my first friends when I moved to Westport and Long Lots in 8th grade. Bob was devoted to his 2 boys Michael and Steven. I am grateful to have known Bob and had him as my friend. Jeff
Tony Akey - August 21st, 2022
It breaks my heart to see how many of our classmates have passed. Each was special in so many ways. Bobby Delson was my friend from age 5. I loved him then and I love him now. What a life he led. What memories he gave to all of us who loved him. I was honored to speak at his memorial service by the cannons at Compo Beach. As tough as it was for Bobby at the end he never lost his sense of humor, his genuine gratitude for life and his deep love of his children. Keene Estates and Hickory Drive strong, Bobby. Love you, man.

Sally DeMattio

Deceased Date: 2016-02-13
Obituary:
DeMattio, Sally Ann

Sally Ann DeMattio passed away peacefully with her loving family and precious dogs by her side on Saturday February 13, 2016. She was a beautiful soul who shined her light through her beautiful smile. A life long Westport resident, Sally truly enjoyed her home, her gardens, and her little dogs, Daisy and Rascal.

Employed by the post office for over 22 years, Sally always said she genuinely enjoyed getting to know her customers on a personal level. Her mother Dolores, sister Kathy and brothers, Ralph, Joey and Mike invite you to celebrate Sally's life on Friday Feb 19th, 4-8 pm at Harding Funeral Home 210 Post Road East, Westport, CT. Friends are invited to attend a funeral on Saturday February 20, 2016 at 10:00AM meeting directly at Assumption Church 98 Riverside Ave. Westport, CT. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to inelda.org or CT Humane Soc-Westport.
Joanne Romano Csonka - September 13th, 2022
Besides being life long friends and family I used to see Sally at the Post office where she worked until she couldn’t. Still the same all those years later and never heard her complain. She took what life handed her and faced many obstacles like many of us but I always saw her smile at everyone. She would laugh at me because I always had a ton of packages and hated waiting in line.

Jean Donovan

Birth Date: 1953-04-10
Deceased Date: 1980-12-02
Bonnie Housner Erickson - November 24th, 2022
The Westport News, Woog's World - Remembering Jean Donovan, by Dan Woog, 12/14/07 The holidays are supposed to be a joyful time -- a month-long celebration of love and kindness, family and friends. It is a difficult period, however, for anyone who ever lost someone dear around this time. Amid the parties and celebrations, the colors and life, some Westporters are reminded only of death. December always reminds John Suggs of Jean Donovan. She died in 1980, he remembers. And every December he wonders why more Westporters don't recall, and mourn, Jean Donovan, too. Jean Donovan grew up in Westport. Her father was an executive at United Technologies; she rode a horse, joined the Girl Scouts, played field hockey and passed through Long Lots Junior High School and Staples High School. She graduated in 1971, relatively untouched by the antiwar, sex-drugs-and-rock 'n' roll '60s. She went on to Mary Washington College, majored in economics, earned a master's degree in information sciences from Case Western Reserve University, and looked forward to a successful business career. Instead she became one of the most famous religious lay workers in the world. During a year in Ireland, a charismatic priest committed to helping the Latin American poor challenged her to do the same. Quitting her job as a management consultant with Arthur Andersen, she joined the Maryknoll religious order in 1978. Assigned to El Salvador, she witnessed firsthand that government's brutal war against the disaffected peasants. She buried the bodies of dead villagers and helped distraught relatives search for missing loved ones. She was deeply affected by the murder of Archbishop Oscar Romero, and two close friends. The brutality she saw only intensified her efforts to help those on the margins of society. According to The Life and Example of Jean Donovan by Rev. John Dear, a Jesuit peace activist, in November of 1980 she noticed a U.S. military helicopter following her. She told the U.S. ambassador about it. When he denied that American helicopters were in the country, she told him her father had spent his life helping build them. She knew the exact name and model of the craft. On Dec. 2, 1980, she was driving a bus carrying three nuns. In a remote area, members of Salvadoran military death squads forced it off the road. Two days later, the bodies of the four women were found in a makeshift grave. They had been tortured, raped and shot at close range. Jean Donovan's face was completely destroyed. She was 27 years old. A United Nations Truth Commission investigated who gave the orders, who approved the killings and who covered them up. Eventually, it was learned that several death squad soldiers had been trained at the U.S. Army School of the Americas in Fort Benning, Ga. Subsequent publicity shined a light on foreign policy decisions of the Carter, Reagan and George H.W. Bush administrations, all of which had supported El Salvador's right-wing military government. Melissa Gilbert played Jean Donovan in a 1983 television movie, Choices of the Heart. At least two plays have also been written about the women's murders. But, says John Suggs, Jean Donovan has been virtually forgotten in her own home town. St. Luke Church -- her home parish -- has no memorial to her. There is no plaque at Staples High School. In fact, Suggs says, "the only place in Fairfield County I have successfully managed to discover her memory recalled and her photograph displayed is at the Fairfield University campus ministry office. But that shouldn't be too surprising, considering that the Jesuits also lost members to the El Salvador military death squads." Suggs says that in progressive Catholic social justice networks, "Jean Donovan is considered a saint." At least two organizations have honored her memory in tangible ways. A Jean Donovan Summer Fellowship at Santa Clara University -- a Jesuit school -- supports students interested in social justice, while in Los Angeles the Casa Jean Donovan Community Residence houses members of the Jesuit Volunteer Corps. Yet in Westport, Suggs insists, "she is all but forgotten. I don't doubt that there are still a few people living here who remember her and mourn her passing each December. But they, like me, are forced to mourn her alone in the silence of their hearts because her town, her school, her parish church have all forgotten." While he mourns the deaths of the many priests, nuns, lay workers and common Salvadorans killed by the military death squads, Jean Donovan's is particularly painful and profound. "Perhaps because of her youth," he says, "or perhaps because of her role as a volunteer, she was always so easily identifiable to me and countless others who would ultimately devote a portion of our own lives and energies over the years, volunteering in local and international grassroots social justice peace efforts." Suggs says that remembering Jean Donovan this year is particularly important, because the circumstances of her death are both timely and topical. He cites a Los Angeles Times story suggesting that American military planners' fallback strategy for Iraq -- including a gradual withdrawal of forces and renewed emphasis on training Iraqi fighters -- is based in part on the U.S. experience in El Salvador in the 1980s. "Years after, the U.S. role in El Salvador remains controversial," the Times piece notes. "Some academics have argued that the U.S. military turned a blind eye to government-backed death squads, or even aided them. But former advisors and military historians argue that the U.S. gradually professionalized the Salvadoran army and curbed the government's abuses." Suggs's stance is clear. He wants Westporters to be reminded that "all the terrible things that are currently being done in Iraq in all of our names had, in a sad and tragic way, part of its genesis right here in Westport -- in the bright, happy face of a little girl named Jean Donovan." The Iraq-El Salvador connection may not be clear for years. But for now, let's heed Suggs's call. This holiday season, amid the carols and greeting cards that blithely call for "peace on earth," let's take a moment to recall Jean Donovan: a young woman from our small corner of the planet who, 27 years ago this month, gave her life for that very cause. Westporter and author Dan Woog can be contacted at dwoog@optonline.net
Bonnie Housner Erickson - November 24th, 2022
Westport News, 'Westport's own Catholic martyr'; Remembering Jean Donovan 40 years later, by Jarret Lotta and Katrina Koerting, Dec 11, 2020 Despite the tragedy of her death 40 years ago, Jean Donovan remains an inspiration to the congregation of Assumption Church and beyond. On Sunday the church shared its annual remembrance of Donovan, who was a member of the congregation decades ago. "She's a Westport kid and we're humbled by the fact that she's one of us," said Bill Macnamara, grand knight of Westport's Knights of Columbus Council 3688, which led a color guard in her honor at the beginning of Sunday's service, which was also broadcast remotely. She also belonged to St. Luke's across town, where she was confirmed after her family moved while she was growing up. "I never had the pleasure of knowing her, but we honor her," Macnamara said. "This parish honors her every year because she received Holy Communion here. She went to Assumption grammar school. ... So it's a big deal." Donovan, then 27, was raped and murdered on Dec. 2, 1980, along with three nuns - Maura Clarke, Ita Ford and Dorothy Kazel. They were some of the first Americans killed in El Salvador's civil war. Five members of the El Salvador National Guard were later convicted in the crimes. The women's deaths resonated within religious and political communities and have been well-documented and depicted in many books and movies. "We are here to celebrate the life and legacy of a great woman," The Rev. Cyrus Bartolome said, keeping his own remarks about her brief but noting a scroll had been prepared by Cathy Romano, director of religious education, for congregants to take home to read about Donovan. Since 2017, a large plaque has also adorned the vestibule inside the main doors of the sanctuary, recounting Donovan's life and legacy. "It's powerful," said Romano, who like Donovan is a Westport native. "She had the Westport dream," she said. "She had the college and she had the job, but she heard God speaking to her, saying 'Help my people.'" Donovan left her job as a management consultant with Arthur Anderson, just a few years before her death so she could do missionary work. "We're honoring a true martyr of the church," said Deacon Bill Koniers, who spoke briefly of her to the congregation in relation to the second Sunday of Advent, which for the Catholic religion in part reflects on God's plan for individuals. "Jean consciously stepped away from a promising business career to serve the poor and downtrodden," Koniers said. It's this aspect that seems to have resonated most with people and one of the reasons she is featured among the four women, said John F. Suggs, a Westport resident and former Jesuit who has worked to keep her memory alive. "She's easier to identify with than someone who makes a lifetime commitment as a sister," he said. Her dedication to the people there and staying despite her fears is also another touching detail for many. She wrote a letter to a friend in Connecticut just a couple weeks before she was killed, describing how the Peace Corps had left El Salvador due to the increased danger and how she had considered leaving too. "I almost could, except for the children, the poor, bruised victims of this insanity," Donavan wrote. "Who would care for them? Whose heart could be so staunch as to favor the reasonable thing in a sea of their tears and loneliness? Not mine, dear friend, not mine." These words now hang in the church on the plaque. "She could have left," Romano said. "She heard the uprising was getting bad, and she didn't. She gave her life for her faith." Suggs said Donovan's and the nuns' deaths had a great impact on his life. "I remember the day she passed vividly," he said. He didn't know her personally, but news of their deaths stuck with him. He was 19 at the time and in college. A few years later he would start his training to become a Catholic priest. "Their example and their commitment has resonated for me," he said, adding especially Donovan's. "She was unique among the four." Suggs has spent a lot of time researching Donovan's life so that he can preserve her memory. He learned she would bake chocolate chip cookies for Archbishop Oscar Romero on Sundays and attended his funeral when he was assassinated not long before she was. He also learned about her life in Westport and how she used to work in a stable. "She was clearly independent-minded," he said. "Obviously, they all knew fear, but they knew how to overcome those fears." Donovan knew it was dangerous but thought she had some security when she volunteered because of her nationality, Suggs said. "She would say she was safe because she's a blond hair, blue-eyed American and no one would touch her because of the relationship between the Americans and El Salvadoran military," he said. That changed when President Jimmy Carter lost reelection, becoming a lame duck president before President Ronald Reagan took office. Attacks then began on the American missionaries in El Salvador, who the military viewed were there for political reasons, he said. "It's taken years and years for justice to be brought to this case," he said. The United Nations truth commission completed a report in the 1990s that examined the civil war in El Slavador, dedicating a section to what happened to the women. It also concluded that high-ranking officials not only knew about, but covered up, many of these crimes. "When I got here in Westport, I was surprised that it was 20 years after her death and she was only really remembered in people's hearts," Suggs said. He started writing pieces about her for local publications and worked with her classmates and community members to create a plaque honoring her memory. Once that work started, more people began to share their stories of Donovan. She's remembered in other parts of the country as well, with a community home and fellowship named for her at Santa Clara Univserity, a Jesuit school. "This brave woman is Westport's own Catholic martyr," Koniers said. "She came from Westport. She lived here. She received her first Holy Communion here." "May her service to the poor continue to be an inspiration to all of us," Konier told the congregation.
Bob Powers - August 3rd, 2022
JEAN DONOVAN, LAY MISSIONER MARTYRED IN 1980 40 years after her martyrdom, Jean Donovan’s example continues to inspire. BY MARYKNOLL LAY MISSIONERS | NOV 6, 2020 Jean Donovan, the youngest of the four U.S. church women martyred in El Salvador on December 2, 1980, was born on April 10, 1953. She was the younger of two children and raised in an upper middle class family in Westport, Connecticut. Her father, Raymond, was an executive engineer, and later chief of design, at the nearby Sikorsky Aircraft Division of the United Technologies, a large defense contractor for the U.S. and manufacturer of helicopters used in the Vietnam War. Jean was very close to her brother, Michael, and was deeply affected when he was struck with Hodgkin’s disease, from which he made a complete recovery. The experience of the disease and his courageous battle to conquer it left a strong impression on Jean and, as she said later, gave her a deeper sense of the preciousness of life. JEAN’S JOURNEY TO MISSION Jean received a master’s degree in business administration from Case Western Reserve University in Cleveland, then took a job as management consultant for an accounting firm in Cleveland. She was on her way to a successful business career. Not the shy or withdrawn type, Jean was described by friends as outgoing, a “driver,” a “joker,” who often did outrageous things to get attention. Her mother, Patricia, described her as “a gutsy, loving, caring person.” She loved riding her motorcycle and was once known for pouring scotch, her drink of choice, over her cereal in the morning. Her spirit and generosity drew loyal friends, who later were left to grapple with the choices Jean made. But Jean was not content and began a search for some deeper meaning in life. While volunteering in the Cleveland Diocese’s Youth Ministry, she heard about the diocesan mission project in El Salvador. It was what she was looking for. Jean attributed her decision to “a gut feeling,” and said, “I want to get closer to Him, and that’s the only way I think I can.” The director of the mission program, Maryknoll Sister Mary Anne O’Donnell, described Jean as intelligent, loving and apostolic and believed that, despite (or rather, because of) her fun-loving, hard-living ways, she had the signs of being a good missioner. Jean had also been much affected by time she had spent in Ireland as an exchange student, where a priest who befriended her, Father Michael Crowley, a former missionary in Peru, introduced her to a different world, the world of those living at the margins and a life of faith committed to a more radical following of the example of Jesus of Nazareth. Jean was haunted by what she experienced there, and this brought her to question the values of her own life. Her preparation included participating in the orientation program of the Maryknoll lay missioner Class of the Spring of 1979 at Maryknoll, New York. IN EL SALVADOR Jean Donovan arrived in El Salvador in July 1979, a time when the repression was intensifying and the church had become a major target. She became Caritas coordinator for the diocesan mission program. In addition to keeping the books, she worked in La Libertad with Ursuline Sister Dorothy Kazel, distributing food for displaced and poor persons and carrying out family-education programs. Her mother, Patricia, said of her work, “Jean took her commitment to the campesinos very seriously. She was strongly motivated by St. Francis of Assisi and by Archbishop Óscar Romero. She translated God’s teachings into clothing the poor, feeding the hungry, and caring for the wounded refugees, mainly children who had lost what little they had.” As for the people of La Libertad, they loved Jean Donovan and dubbed her, “St. Jean the Playful.” Jean was very devoted to Archbishop Romero, often coming to the cathedral on Sundays to hear his homilies, which at that time were the only source of news and truth left in El Salvador. After his assassination, Jean and Dorothy were among those who took turns keeping vigil at his coffin. And they were present in the cathedral on March 30, 1980, when the overflow crowd in the plaza attending his funeral was attacked by security forces, resulting in a panicked stampede. The massacre left 44 dead and hundreds of wounded. As Jean sat crowded among the desperate people who fled into the cathedral for safety, she fully believed that she might die that day. The repression touched her in other very personal ways. Friends were killed by death squads, and she witnessed one such killing first-hand. In the fall of 1980 Jean took a break from this tense reality to attend the wedding of a friend in Ireland. There she was reunited for a time with her fiancé, Dr. Douglas Cable. Many of her friends tried to persuade her to leave El Salvador, but she comforted them with the quip, “They don’t kill blond-haired, blue-eyed North Americans.” On her way back from the wedding, Jean stopped at Maryknoll, where, a friend later told Donovan’s parents, she spent several hours in the chapel. She confessed her fear that she might be killed. Jean Donovan icon Holy New Martyr Jean Donovan, icon by William Hart McNichols “When she came out [of the chapel],” her mother recalled, “the sister said that she was an entirely different woman. She was ready to go back. She had made her peace with whatever frightening thoughts she had.” After also visiting Cleveland and her parents in Miami, she returned to El Salvador to pick up the bodies, console the grieving, and lead the poor in prayer. “Life continues with many interruptions,” she wrote. “I don’t know how the poor survive. People in our positions really have to die to ourselves and our wealth to gain the spirituality of the poor and oppressed.” Jean and Dorothy often used their very visible presence to accompany people in danger, or to get supplies into areas not accessible to others. They became a well-known sight, driving along the countryside in their mission van. As the violence engulfed the country, Jean felt the personal challenge of trying to cope, to understand what was happening. It tested her faith. “I think that the hardship one endures maybe is God’s way of taking you out into the desert and to prepare you to meet and love him more fully.” And while she had been a loyal patriotic Republican, she also saw the direct connection between the violence in El Salvador and the policies of the U.S. Ronald Reagan won the presidential election in November 1980 promising a strong stand against “communism.” The Salvadoran government got the message. Patricia remembers that “things grew progressively worse in El Salvador after the United States election…The military believed they were given a blank check, no restrictions. In light of what happened, who’s to say they weren’t? Jean had told us that she feared there would be a bloodbath in El Salvador.” In November, while riding her motor bike, Donovan noticed a U.S. military helicopter following her. The U.S. ambassador denied that U.S. helicopters were in El Salvador, but much to his chagrin, Donovan knew the name and model because her father had spent his life helping to build them. Two weeks before she was murdered, with the bloodbath already begun, she wrote to a friend in Connecticut: “Several times I have decided to leave El Salvador. I almost could except for the children, the poor bruised victims of this insanity. Who would care for them? Whose heart would be so staunch as to favor the reasonable thing in a sea of their tears and helplessness? Not mine, dear friend, not mine.” JEAN DONOVAN'S MARTYRDOM On December 2, 1980, Jean accompanied Dorothy to the airport in San Salvador, El Salvador, to pick up two Maryknoll Sisters, Ita Ford and Maura Clarke, flying in from Nicaragua. As the four women left the airport, they were taken by soldiers, raped, killed and buried in shallow graves in a rural area about 15 miles away from the airport. Two days later their bodies were discovered. Donovan’s face was completely destroyed. She was 27 years old. These brutal murders of four missioner women martyrs shocked the world. As Father John Dear said in 2010,“Jean Donovan was a modern-day martyr, losing her life while caring for the poor in the midst of El Salvador’s bloody civil war. Thirty years later, her memory continues to inspire.” For the family of Jean Donovan, her death was an indescribable blow. When she had first told them she was going to El Salvador, they had to pull out a map to find out where it was. Now they had lost their only daughter in this tiny country that had become a major focus of U.S. foreign policy. But Jean’s death was not the only blow; following her death they had to deal with what for them became the betrayal by the very government they thought embodied values of justice and political good. As they approached the State Department for information, they were treated coolly, then with hostility. Eventually they were told to stop bothering State Department officials. In April 1981, at a hearing before the Senate Foreign Relations Committee, all but one Republican Senator left the room when Michael appeared to testify. The final insult came when the Donovans received a bill from the State Department for $3,500 for the return of Jean’s body to the U.S. The scandal of the way the U.S. government treated this case, including Reagan administration officials accusing the women of “running a roadblock,” of engaging in “an exchange of fire,” of being “not just nuns…but political activists,” enraged the Donovans and other families of the women. As levels of U.S. military aid escalated, Jean’s mother wrote, “Jean deserves, at the very least, that her native land not reward her killers.” The head of the National Guard, whose troops were responsible for the murders, Gen. Eugenio Vides Casanova, went on to become Minister of Defense under the “democratic” government of José Napoleon Duarte (1984-89). Jean’s time in El Salvador led her to those fundamental challenges of the meaning of life, of faith, in a world torn by injustice and violence against the poorest, the most vulnerable. It was a personal challenge. “I’m 26 years old. I should be married. I shouldn’t be running around doing all of these things. But then I think, I’ve got so many things I want to do. It’s hard when I see my friends getting married and having babies, that’s something I’ve thought about…am I ever going to have kids? Sometimes I wonder if I’m denying that to myself. I really don’t want to, but that’s maybe what I’m doing. And then I sit there and talk to God and say, why are you doing this to me? Why can’t I just be your little suburban housewife? He hasn’t answered yet.”

George Dorsey

Patti Dorsey - September 26th, 2022
After leaving Westport in 1971 and returning to our birthplace in Cleveland, Ohio George began a career in real estate. He met and married the love of his life, Sue Maltby, shortly after giving birth to their only child, GR (George Richard ). Years later George moved his family to Scottsdale, Arizona where George continued a lucrative career until his death at age 63. He is survived by his wife, Sue, a son and recently a grandson.

John During

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Jeffrey Eastin

Birth Date: 1953-04-10
Deceased Date: 2017-05-11
Obituary:
This was Jeff's self-written obituary:

I’d like the memory of me

to be a happy one.

I’d like to leave an afterglow

of smiles when day is done.

I’d like to leave an echo

whispering softly down the ways,

of happy times, and laughing times

and bright and sunny days.

I’d like the tears of those who grieve

to dry before the sun

of happy memories I leave behind

when day is done.
Tony Akey - September 13th, 2022
I went to Long Lots and Jeff went to Bedford. I never really knew him but say hello. I stopped playing football after 9th grade, and at Staples I couldn't believe the pressure Jeff was under. Lord could he throw that football and I think the pressure put on him by many people was pretty tough. Jeff, if you can read this from above, and I believe you can, your self written obituary is beautiful. Clearly my loss that I never got to know you that well. Your words are lovely and I'm sure those close to you miss you every day. Peace.

Kathleen Flanigan

Deceased Date: 2008-01-20
Obituary:
Published in the Westport News on March 5, 2008:

Kathleen Mary Flanigan died in West Palm Beach, Fla., Jan. 20. She was 54.

Kathleen was the daughter of Irma Allen and the late John J. Flanigan of Westport. She graduated from Staples High School in 1971. She worked for Dr. Stuart Garrelick, a Westport orthodontist, as a treatment room coordinator for many years. She had a great love for children and working with them and their families.

Survivors include her mother; her stepdad Doug Allen; Karen and John Weslar; Joan and Richard Astoreca; Joe Flanigan; John and Linda Flanigan; Raymond and Juleen Flanigan; and her nine nieces and nephews, their spouses and children.

The family celebrated her life in a funeral mass on Jan. 23, in Florida. There will be a burial and a prayer service at Assumption Cemetery in Westport, March 19, at 10 a.m.

The family requests that contributions in Kathleen's memory can be made to Hospice of Palm Beach County, www.hpbc.com
Liz Doyle Boyd - August 11th, 2022
A great pal since I met her at St. Luke’s CCD in 1966…. Kathleen was so much fun and adventurous… fond memory of riding in her karmann ghia underneath fallen trees from a hurricane to Compo.. “yes we live here” we told the cops blocking the road to only residents… the water was just short of the road leaving Compo From Westport to her many visits to Colorado we enjoyed our friendship to the fullest.. Miss you tons Buzel… until, love ya kiddo
Ray Flanigan - July 17th, 2022
Kathleen Flanigan, came to Westport with her family in 64, attended Burr Farms, and Coleytown Jr High, then Staples. She was an Orthodontic Assistant for Sands and Garrelick for many years. She was great with children, loved as Aunt “Buz” by her nieces and nephews. Loved her Honda 175, camping and Bonnie Raitt. Passed in 2008 while visiting her mom in Florida at the age of 54.

Robert Franco

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Ronald Geer

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Richard Gianesello

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Thomas Grenier

Birth Date: 1953-02-12
Deceased Date: 2011-12-31
Obituary:
TOM GRENIER OBITUARY

GRENIER--Tom. February 12 1953 - December 31 2011. Died suddenly at home, after a wonderful day. Devoted husband to Katherine (Cass), loving father who stayed at home to raise his children Nicholas and Eva. Creative painter, cartoonist, sculptor and conceptual artist. Predeceased by his father Wallace and sister Barbara Anderson. A true original, he will be deeply missed by his wife and children, mother Mary Jane (Kit), sisters Margaret Markman and Anne, eleven nieces and nephews and many others. A celebration of Tom's life and art will be held this summer.

Published by New York Times on Jan. 8, 2012
Noted by Jalna Jaeger
Peter Rolnick - December 11th, 2023
Tom was one of the nicest people I ever knew. For a brief time during High School he and I would hitch-hike to Vermont and go hiking on the Long Trail. We also both played the harmonica. I have thought of him often over the years, and I'm sad that I won't have the opportunity to bump into him at some time. I'm glad to see that he had what sounds like a happy life.

Pamela Guthman

Birth Date: 1953-02-22
Deceased Date: 2006-12-11
Obituary:
Pamela Guthman, 53, Healer, Writer, And Dealer
PUBLISHED: DECEMBER 19, 2006, Antiques and the Arts Weekly, written by Laura Beach

Pamela Guthman, a much loved member of the antiques community and Antiques and The Arts Weekly‘s extended family, died peacefully on December 11 in San Diego. She was 53.

A devout Christian Scientist, Guthman worked as a practitioner, or spiritual healer, after moving to San Diego from Westport, Conn., four years ago. In the early 1980s, Guthman was briefly on the editorial staff of Antiques and The Arts Weekly and was the first editor of Connoisseur’s Quarterly, the journal of the Art & Antiques Dealers League of America.

As a freelance writer for a variety of publications, including this one, she wrote widely on everything that mattered to her: friends, travel, food, antiques, outdoor pursuits, environmentalism, and, above all, faith.

Pam lived in the present and was fond of vigorous activity. She studied ballroom dance and took up diving, rock climbing, long distance running and even trained for Ironman triathlon competition. In each instance, she cared more about camaraderie than competition. She made friends everywhere she went.

Until her mother’s death in 2002, she helped out at Pat Guthman Antiques in Southport, Conn., and was a lively spirit at every antiques show in which she participated.

“Everyone who knew her will miss her smile. It’s something we will all carry in our hearts,” said Old Lyme, Conn., dealer Karen DiSaia, recalling with a video of the first Southport-Westport Antiques Show that captured Pam in a game of Frisbee with Karen’s husband, Ralph.

Born February 22, 1953, in Philadelphia, Pam lived in Westport, Conn., for most of her life. A graduate of Staples High School in Westport and Principia College in Elsah, Ill., she worked in Boston for the First Church of Christ, Scientist, before returning to Connecticut in 1980.

After Pat Guthman Antiques relocated to Pequot Avenue in Southport, Pam left her job in Manhattan to join her mother, exhibiting at as many as 12 antiques shows a year.

“We were roommates and business partners,” Pam wrote in a 2002 tribute to Pat Guthman, a specialist in antiques for the kitchen and hearth. The women spent nine months designing and building a commercial/residential complex in Southport with three shops downstairs and a three-bedroom, three-bath apartment upstairs. They incorporated antique architectural fragments throughout and gave cooking demonstrations on the site.

Ron Bourgeault was one of many friends who stayed with the Guthmans. “Show business can be very stressful and competitive, but Pam always had a kind word to say about everyone. I attended several Christian Science services with Pam. I left those meetings with feelings of peace and comfort. I know Pam is happy in her new home. I will miss her but think of the joy she brought to us all.”

In 1997, Pat Guthman sold the building and moved her shop. She shared her new quarters with Peter & Maria Warren Antiques. Pam and Pat became close friends with Peter Warren and his daughter, A.J.

“Pam was like a third daughter to me. She was a luminous person whose smile and warmth lit up a room. She had a wonderful calmness that seemed, in part, to come from being deeply religious. She saw beauty in so many small things: a flower, a breeze, a common courtesy,” said Peter Warren.

“Pam was my sister, my soul mate, my comrade-in-arms. We spent a great deal of time together and shared everything,” said A.J. Warren. “She was a bright spirit, one of the strongest and most selfless people I have ever known.”

“We had lots of fun when Pam was working for our paper,” R. Scudder Smith, editor of Antiques and The Arts Weekly, said. “Her enthusiasm and energy ran at a very high level and she was always full of more story ideas than she could possibly have time to write.”

After her mother died in 2002, Pam lived for four months with Mary Flynn, a neighbor and fellow member of her Westport church.

“We had a service on December 13,” said Flynn. “After the reading, most of the talk was about Pam. It was a very beautiful demonstration of the love people had for her. In the days since, her many friends have called me from all over the country.”

In 2003, Pam married Brian Kissock, her second husband and a fellow practitioner. They had recently divorced but remained close.

In a letter published in the August 4, 2006, edition of the San Diego North County Times, Pamela Guthman wrote that “the love of God, made practical through acknowledging, accepting and living it continuously,” was what was relevant in life.

Few lived with more faith, hope and joy than she did.

A memorial service in her honor is planned for May 12 in Westport.

Pam is survived by her brother and sister-in-law, Scott and Bernadette Guthman; her nieces, Rachel and Laicey; her stepmother, Elizabeth Stillinger; and her stepsisters, Alice Stillinger and Amelia Stillinger. She is predeceased by her father, antiques dealer William Guthman, who died in 2005, and her mother, Pat Guthman.
Bonnie Housner Erickson - November 24th, 2022
Westport News, 2/21/07 Pamela Guthman, a well-known antiques dealer and expert, died peacefully on Dec. 11 at San Diego Hospice in California. She was 53. A memorial service in her honor is planned for May 12 at Pequot Library in Southport. The service will begin at 1 p.m. She was born on Feb. 22, 1953, in Philadelphia, and grew up on High Point Road in Westport. A graduate of Burr Farms Elementary School, Long Lots Junior High, Staples High School and Principia College in Elsah, Ill., she worked in Boston for the First Church of Christ, Scientist, before returning to Connecticut in 1980. Her mother operated Pat Guthman Antiques in Southport. Ms. Guthman left her job in Manhattan to join her mother, exhibiting at up to a dozen antiques shows a year. She worked there until her mother's death in 2002. "We were roommates and business partners," Ms. Guthman wrote in a 2002 tribute to her mother, who was a specialist in antiques for the kitchen and hearth. The women spent nine months designing and building a commercial/residential complex in Southport with three shops downstairs and a three-bedroom, three-bath apartment upstairs. They incorporated antique architectural fragments throughout and gave cooking demonstrations on the site. A devout Christian Scientist, Ms. Guthman worked as a practitioner, or spiritual healer, after moving to San Diego from Westport four years ago. In the early 1980s, she was on the editorial staff of Antiques and The Arts Weekly and was the first editor of Connoisseur's Quarterly, the journal of the Art & Antiques Dealers League of America. "We had lots of fun when Pam was working for our paper," R. Scudder Smith, editor of Antiques and The Arts Weekly, said. "Her enthusiasm and energy ran at a very high level and she was always full of more story ideas than she could possibly have time to write." As a freelance writer for a variety of publications she wrote widely about friends, travel, food, antiques, outdoor pursuits, environmentalism and faith. She studied ballroom dance and took up diving, rock-climbing, long-distance running and even trained for an Ironman triathlon competition. In each instance, she cared more about camaraderie than competition. She made friends everywhere she went. In 2003, Ms. Guthman married Brian Kissock, her second husband and a fellow practitioner. They had recently divorced but remained close. Ms. Guthman is survived by her brother and sister-in-law, Scott and Bernadette Guthman, and her nieces, Rachel and Laicey, all of California; her stepmother, Elizabeth Stillinger of Westport; and her stepsisters, Alice Stillinger and Amelia Stillinger. In addition to her mother, she was predeceased by her father, antiques dealer William Guthman.
Bonnie Housner Erickson - September 5th, 2022
Pam was my absolute best friend at Long Lots. While it was true that Pam had tons of friends, she made you feel like you were the only one that mattered when you were with her. We had lots of sleepovers at her house on High Point Rd and it seemed like we were always in the pool. We'd invent all kinds of swimming and diving games and would sing songs with all the hand and arm gestures to "Way Up in the Sky" and "Up in the Air, Junior Birdman." We'd choreograph our underwater ballet performances for her mom, Pat, to score. Pat always gave us perfect tens. I had no idea what a mud room was until I went to Pam's for the first time. We loved playing with her dog, Toby, and I seem to remember us constantly teasing her little brother, Scott, about how cute he was. Pam was devout in her spiritual beliefs even as a youngster and would minister to me on a regular basis. I would let her go on and on and then finally say, "No." She'd inevitably look at me with disappointment then say, "Okay...Want popcorn?" I was so looking forward to her attending our 35th reunion. She'd made a commitment to go...and then she cancelled at the last minute. Four months later she was gone. She never said she was sick. She never said she was dying. I join a long list of people who miss her.
Tony Akey - August 25th, 2022
Pam was a passionate, sweet and fun loving person when we were good friends in junior high. Staples being so large it was easy to fallout of touch with people as we made new friends and traveled different paths on our journeys. I didn't see much of Pam in Staples but I did enjoy finding out that she was a real power broker in the antiques world. Guthman Americana had some remarkable Revolutionary War pieces many of which I got to see in her house. Had this beautiful woman had the gift of a longer life I am sure we would all be watching her on Antiques Road Show. What a wonderful person she was.

Linda Guyaz

Birth Date: 1953-08-26
Deceased Date: 2009-06-04
Obituary:

LAKE LUZERNE - Linda G. Wimley, 55, of Sixth Avenue, died Thursday morning, June 4, 2009, at Glens Falls Hospital.

Born on Aug. 26, 1953, in Norwalk, Conn., she was the daughter of Muriel Eliason Holtzman and the late William Guyaz.

She was a graduate of Staples High School, Westport, Conn.

She married William C. "Billy" Wimley on April 17, 1976, in Westport, Conn. They spent weekends in Lake Luzerne from 1988 until they moved here permanently in 1994. Billy died on Jan. 15, 2006.

Linda and Billy owned and operated Ye Olde York Pub in Ridgefield, Conn., and after relocating, Linda worked at the Old Log Inn in Lake George.

She was a very creative person who enjoyed arts and crafts, gardening, birds and being with people. She also enjoyed riding motorcycles, snowmobiles and boating.

Linda was predeceased by her husband, her father, William Guyaz, a sister, Kathleen Pleasants and her stepfather, Joseph Holtzman.

Survivors include her mother, Muriel Holtzman of Dania Beach, Fla.; her stepchildren, Pamela Strickland and her husband, Connie, of Fayetteville, N.C. and William Wimley III and his wife, Kris, of Mandeville, La.; one sister, Barbara Estep and her husband, Jerry, of Dania Beach, Fla.; a half-sister, Abegail Guyaz of New Town, Conn.; several step grandchildren; and many dear and devoted friends in Connecticut and New York, including her dear friend, Sheila Ravine of Glens Falls.

A memorial service will be conducted 2 p.m. Monday, at St. Mary's Episcopal Church, Lake Luzerne, with the Rev. Bruce Mason, rector, officiating.

Burial will be at the convenience of the family in Westport, Conn.

In lieu of flowers, contributions in Linda's memory may be directed to the American Cancer Society, 959 state Route 9, Queensbury, NY 12801, or to the Double H Hole in the Woods Ranch, 97 Hidden Valley Road, Lake Luzerne, NY 12846.

Arrangements have been entrusted to the Brewer Funeral Home Inc., 24 Church St., Lake Luzerne.
Bonnie Housner Erickson - September 5th, 2022
Linda and I were friends at Long Lots. We sang in the choir together in church. She taught me how to smoke cigarettes in the church bathroom. Parliaments. She took me to get my ears pierced in 8th grade. She showed me how I could get on the school bus wearing knee socks over panty hose covered by a knee length skirt, roll up the waistband to make the skirt short and take off the socks right before getting off the bus for school. She talked me into taking Shop class. She convinced me to spend my babysitting money on a cream colored "leather" quilted purse with a zipper and a long chain with woven "leather" shoulder strap. She proved that wearing white Keds was cool. She insisted I learn how to shave my legs. She showed me how to make book covers out of brown paper grocery bags. She taught me a lot. I've since quit smoking and I still have pierced ears. I've ditched the panty hose but do wear knee high compression socks. I'm still pretty handy thanks to Shop class and I do buy a lot of purses. I still wear Keds. I donate brown paper grocery bags to the food pantry. I do need to revisit that leg shaving thing though.

Karen Honig

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Doug Jenkins

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Gregg Johnson

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Sue Kahn

Fred Cantor - May 23rd, 2022
Sue had a great sense of humor. And she always seemed to remain positive—even after her husband had suffered a debilitating bout with Lyme disease and they decided to start on a new journey out in the state of Washington. I last saw her shortly before she left Westport—was it 20 years ago or more?!—but I can still hear that wonderful laugh of hers.

Charlie Karp

Birth Date: 1953-04-13
Deceased Date: 2019-03-10
Obituary:
Charlie Karp, Fairfield resident, longtime musician, dies
Amanda Cuda, March 12, 2019, CT Post

FAIRFIELD -- Award-winning singer, songwriter and guitarist Charlie Karp died Sunday night after a long illness, friends said.

A former student at Staples High School in Westport -- who left school at 16 to pursue music -- Karp had a professional career that stretched nearly 50 years.

Karp, who lived in Fairfield and had a studio there, recorded with R&B legend Buddy Miles when Karp was a teenager; his long path through the music industry also included writing songs for the likes of Joan Jett and Joe Perry of Aerosmith, performing in bands and producing music for documentaries, sporting events and feature films.

Charlie cut a wide swath through Connecticut music over the last half-century, be it in rock, pop, blues rock or just plain blues," said radio host and writer Fran Fried, of Prospect, in an email. "He wasn't a household name, but musicians certainly knew who he was."

Fried hosts Franorama 2.0, on Cygnus Radio, a Connecticut-based online radio station. Two years ago, she narrated the documentary, "The High School That Rocked!" about Staples and how it drew such influential bands as Cream, the Doors and The Yardbirds to play on its stage.

Miles played Staples in December 1969, and needed a pickup band, Fried said. Karp was recommended as a guitarist, played the show and so impressed Miles that he hired Karp, who left school to tour with him.

"That alone should speak to the talent he had, and from a young age," Fried said.

According to the biography on Karp's website, he recorded four albums with Miles in two years, and his time on the road with Miles included opening for Jimi Hendrix.

In 1972, Karp left Miles to form his own band, White Chocolate. The group was signed by RCA Records. In 1975, Karp signed to Seymour Stein's Sire Records and released a single called "Rock & Roll Love Letter," which was later covered by the Bay City Rollers.

The band eventually morphed into the Dirty Angels, which, in 1979, toured with Aerosmith on the Double Live Bootleg Tour.

"To me, as an impressionable teen growing up in the mid- to late '70s, he'll always be the guitarist for the Dirty Angels, who recorded one of the most criminally under-noticed FM rock songs of the era, "Tell Me." Fried said, "I still smile every time I hear it."

In the '80s, Karp did many sessions as a songwriter and guitarist, including writing songs for Perry and Jett.

According to his biography, in the past decade or so, he had been writing and producing with Danny Kortchmar -- a producer/guitarist for James Taylor, Carole King, Don Henley and Billy Joel among others -- for their band Slo Leak.

Karp also won an Emmy producing music for films and television, and his biography credits him as working on jingles for such products as TWIX candy bars, US Tobacco and Xerox.

Those remembering Karp included Brian Keane, a classmate of Karp's at Staples, and an accomplished musician. The two co-wrote the song "You Lift My Heart," which was released on Marion Meadow's album "Secrets" in 2009.

Keane posted on Facebook about Karp on Saturday, before his death, about how Karp had been moved into hospice and wasn't expected to live more than a few weeks.

At that time, Keane wrote about how, when the two were seventh-graders at Coleytown Junior High School in Westport, "I realized that Charlie Karp possessed naturally what it would take me at least 15 years more of hard work to begin to develop: the ability to channel something magical and musical, and to deliver a special sense of feeling that connected with people and moved them to the core on a fundamental level through music."

On Monday, Keane posted about Karp's death.

"I am beyond saddened to report that Charlie Karp passed away last night. He died peacefully, surrounded by family," the post read. "They told me that he was able to hear your many expressions of love which they read to him before he passed. Thank you all for doing that. I know that meant so much to him."

Bonnie Erickson - July 24th, 2022
Dan Woog - Charlie Karp Rocks the Levitt, July 2019 When Charlie Karp died in March, his many friends were devastated. The Westport native left Staples High School early in his junior year, to play with Buddy Miles. Though he had an extraordinary musical career — playing at Jimi Hendrix’s funeral; writing, recording, teaching and, especially, performing with the world’s greats — he always came back to Fairfield County. So it was appropriate that last night’s tribute concert took place at the Levitt Pavilion. Charlie’s longtime friend and collaborator Brian Keane — himself a Grammy-winning artist, songwriter and producer — put together a remarkable event. From Germany, Nashville and plenty of other places, Charlie’s friends and admirers cancelled gigs and rearranged schedules. More than 70 vocalists, gospel singers, keyboardists, percussionists, horn players and (especially) guitarists flew and drove to Westport. Their list of credits is eye-popping. They’ve played and recorded with, or opened for, everyone from the Beatles, Doors, James Brown, Smokey Robinson and Roberta Flack to Wynton Marsalis, the New York Philharmonic, Boston Pops and London Symphony Orchestra. With just one rehearsal, the musicians — many of whom knew each other, but had never played together — delivered one of the Levitt’s most powerful, pulsating shows ever. It even included a tribute from Charlie’s friend Keith Richards. He was otherwise engaged, on tour with his band the Rolling Stones. The benefit raised funds for a scholarship in Charlie’s name. Every year it will help talented student musicians, by providing studio time at the Carriage House in Stamford and Horizon in West Haven. Midway through the concert, storm clouds rolled in. Thunderstorms — predicted, and ominous — never materialized. The clouds moved on, and the sky brightened. “Charlie’s angels,” someone said.
Bonnie Erickson - July 24th, 2022
Dan Woog, August 2016 You may know Charlie Karp from his many local bands. You may have heard his his work as an Emmy-winning producer of music for sports networks, documentaries, and feature films. But you may not know his Staples-era back story. When he was 14 in 1967 — and still a student at Coleytown Junior High School — Charlie’s band opened for the Doors, at their legendary Staples concert. He was at Fillmore East the next year when it began, and stood on the side of the stage on New Year’s Eve 1969, for the fabled Band of Gypsies concert featuring Jimi Hendrix. Later that night, 16-year-old Charlie hosted a party at his parents’ Upper West Side apartment. His dad was away — but Hendrix was there. Not long after, Buddy Miles asked Charlie to play on what became the renowned “Them Changes” album. Charlie contributed an original song — “I Still Love You, Anyway” — and played acoustic guitar. In April 1970 — while his classmates trudged through junior year — Charlie played with the Buddy Miles Express. They opened for Hendrix at the Los Angeles Forum, in front of a capacity crowd of 18,000. In 1971, Buddy Miles — with Charlie — opened for Three Dog Night at the Cotton Bowl. That same year Miles recorded a live album with Joe Tex. Charlie joined bassist David Hull (part time Aerosmith player), and a tremendous horn section. After all these years — there is not enough room here to talk about his career from the 1970s till now — Charlie is still very much a working musician. He teaches guitar and songwriting at his Fairfield studio. He helps his students and other professional musicians produce their own music, too. His latest release — “Endless Home Movie” — is available on iTunes. It comes almost 50 years after his 1st single — “Welcome to the Circle” — with his Fun Band, on ABC Records. And 45 years after he left Staples, to follow — and reach — his musical dream. He did not graduate with his class. But he helped make this year’s reunion a very classy one.
Bonnie Erickson - July 24th, 2022
Remembering Charlie Karp Dan Woog, March 2019 Charlie Karp — the Westport kid who left Staples High School at 16 to play guitar with Buddy Miles, then hung and played with Jimi Hendrix and Keith Richards and wrote songs for Joan Jett and Joe Perry, before returning home to earn a fanatic following with bands like Dirty Angels, White Chocolate, Slo Leak and the Namedroppers, while simultaneously earning Emmys as a producer of music for sports networks, documentaries and feature films, and becoming a guitar teaching mentor to generations of aspiring young stars — died last night, at 65. He was diagnosed just a few days ago with liver cancer. Charlie’s friends and families wanted him to know how much he was loved and admired. A Facebook posting when he went into hospice care on Friday drew hundreds of comments. Brian Keane — Charlie’s classmate in Staples’ Class of 1971, who has composed music for many films and TV shows, produced over 100 albums, and won Grammys, Emmys and Peabodys, realized Charlie’s talents during Coleytown Junior High’s 7th grade Battle of the Bands. Brian wrote: “Charlie had the ability to channel something magical and musical, to deliver a special sense of feeling that connected with people, and moved them to the core on a fundamental level. Charlie possessed a rare treasure that is impossible to teach, and nearly impossible to attain. Charlie Karp was a natural.” As he played in area venues with Charlie, Brian wrote, “the simplicity of his music made me concentrate on a deep level of honest human feeling.” Charlie played at any club he could (including, at the Georgetown Saloon, with Keith Richards), and for any charity that asked. He was particularly pleased to join ’71 classmates Brian, Michael Mugrage, Bonnie Housner Erickson, Dave Barton, Bill Sims, and Rob and Julie McClenathan in The Reunion Band. Their concert at the Levitt Pavilion was one of the greatest shows ever there. Charlie and Brian co-wrote “You Lift My Heart.” It was released on Marion Meadows’ album “Secrets” a few years ago. Brian finds it a fitting tune for Charlie lifted so many hearts. Brian’s tribute on Facebook elicited heartfelt comments, from a broad array of Charlie’s admirers. Some wrote as fans of his bands. Some were classmates. Some were his guitar students, or their parents. Joe Dochtermann called Charlie his “musical mentor. He taught me everything I know about the art of life as a musician and beyond.” They set up a studio in the Bahamas, and worked together in Easton for a time of “intense musical creation.” Charlie also connected him to “many other kind and talented souls.” Joe wrote, “I can’t fathom where my life would have headed without his compass.” Dennis Hrbek mixed Slo Leak’s first album. He had never heard anything like “Charlie’s vocal coming out of a big amp in the studio, making him sound bigger and badder than ever. That week completely changed the way I listen to music.” The first rock concert Bob Cummings ever saw was White Chocolate, at Fairfield University in 1973. They were “on fire,” Bob wrote, “with Charlie’s guitar screaming! God bless you, Charlie. Let’s have a cup of Hot White Chocolate!”
Brian Keane - July 15th, 2022
Written by Brian Keane, March 9, 2019, just hours before Charlie passed away. Ever since our battle of the bands in the seventh grade at Coleytown Junior High School in Westport, Connecticut, which I lost, I realized that Charlie Karp possessed naturally, what it would take me at least 15 years more of hard work to begin to develop: the ability to channel something magical and musical, and to deliver a special sense of feeling that connected with people, and moved them to the core on a fundamental level through music. Charlie possessed a rare treasure that is impossible to teach, and nearly impossible to attain. Charlie Karp was a natural. Early on, I marveled at his ability with the “Fun Band”, with being a young teenage star on tour with Buddy Miles, recording on the hit song “Them Changes”, and hanging with the greats of rock n’ roll, like Jimi Hendrix, Keith Richards, or Joe Perry. I rooted for his success with his major label recording bands “Dirty Angels”, “White Chocolate”, and with later efforts, too, like his project with legendary guitarist Danny Kortchmar in “Slo Leak”, and with his “Name Droppers” band. In the 1980s, I was thrilled to play blues with Charlie at a little club in Georgetown, and marveled at how much fun it was to be a part of musically. I loved that the simplicity of the music that Charlie played made me concentrate on a deep level of honest human feeling, and it was a welcome relief from the intellectual gymnastics I was being paid to perform as a world touring jazz fusion guitarist at the time. I enjoyed hanging out socially with Charlie, too. I enjoyed our occasional get togethers with the girls while that lasted, our cigars together, talking music and life, and sharing our somewhat unique and yet similar perspectives, living our Peter Pan lives as grown professional musicians. Later, when I hired Charlie to work on what would become Emmy and Peabody award-winning television scores, it was not because I needed a guitarist, though I, of course, appreciated his great talent. It was because I wanted that natural feel that he gave the music, and I wanted to show him my appreciation for the great emotional gift he gave to me and others through his music. I just loved writing music with Charlie, and wish we could have done more of that. Charlie Karp has been very generous with lending his enormous talent and expertise to many younger people, and even students with their recordings, too, and he was always involved with various charities. Charlie has lifted so many spirits through his music, and made such an impact, that he is a local legend without peer. When I was asked to put a band together for our Staples High School 40th reunion, Charlie Karp was the first person I asked. I thought it might be fun to play those old songs we grew up playing again, especially with another great guitarist we went to high school with, Michael Mugrage, joining us; but I had no idea of how much our musical interaction would lift that experience to another level. Everyone who experienced it seemed to feel that too, and I am glad that we had the chance to appear in Fred Cantor’s film “The High School That Rocked” together, and give some summer concerts at the Levitt Pavilion in our hometown, and elsewhere. Tonight, that Reunion Band played a private fundraising event for bereaved children without Charlie in the band. Though Tony Aiardo did an admirable job filling in, it wasn’t the same. It will never be the same. I’ve known that Charlie was very sick for a few weeks now, but until yesterday, Charlie had held out hope that the doctors would find a way to deal with his illness, and asked that the situation remain as private as possible in hopes of a full recovery. I am very sad to report that Charlie Karp was moved from Yale Hospital to hospice yesterday. His doctors don’t expect him to survive more than a few weeks. He is in excellent care, being kept comfortable, and surrounded by loving family. I had to tell the band after the show tonight. The family has requested that you respect Charlie’s, and their privacy in this difficult time. The hospital has been besieged by well wishers, and Charlie and the family are simply not able to accommodate them. However, the family has also asked me to let his many friends, fans, and fellow musicians know what is happening, and to encourage that if you wanted to share any of your own favorite Charlie Karp music or memorabilia, or how Charlie has lifted your spirits through music, or otherwise, that they would welcome that. I am very sad about this, of course. It is devastating for me personally, and I’m sure, for many others, too. However, in the scheme of things, we are all only a nano-second behind Charlie, and soon enough will be joining him in that great beyond, whatever it is. I am left mostly with gratitude. Gratitude for having known Charlie Karp, for having grown up together, for the music that he shared with us, the music that we shared together, and for his welcome company on this crazy and fascinating ride of life together. Charlie Karp has made my life far more enjoyable, and I can only thank him for that. I know that is true for many others too. As some pretty decent song writers once wrote: Charlie, “You lift my heart into heaven”. Love you.
Fred Cantor - May 23rd, 2022
I’m going to share a portion of what I wrote for Charlie’s memorial service: You know, it might sound strange to say that a high school dropout should be viewed as a role model for kids, but that’s exactly the way I feel in Charlie’s case: because he was able to do something he loved, had lots of friends as well as close family who felt a real affection for him, and because of something else too—he gave back to the community in a variety of ways through different charitable causes. Charlie hit the trifecta of life.

Gregory Katz

Elizabeth J. Yoder - August 27th, 2022
Greg was the first person to explain baseball to me, up in the attic bedroom of the amazing old house where he lived at Old Mill Beach. I think he played on a high school team he called the Polish Navy or something. He was a diehard Mets guy. So, years later, I was shocked to hear he had changed his allegiance to the Yankees.
Gwen Dwyer Lechnar - July 21st, 2022
My fellow spelling bee champ! I think it was 5th grade, but it may have been 4th or 6th, the teacher threw in the towel and declared a draw when she realized Greg and I could go on pretty much forever. He stayed a pal though we went different ways come high school years. Loved to challenge the status quo, did Greg. Kept us on our toes.
Fred Cantor - May 23rd, 2022
Greg was obviously as accomplished as anyone from our class—with his sharing in a Pulitzer Prize being Exhibit A of that. But he still remained so down to earth—which is exactly the way he was back in our high school days.

Clare Keneally

Birth Date: 1953-08-12
Deceased Date: 2014-11-23
Obituary:
Clare M. Keneally of Norwalk, CT was born on August 12, 1953 and died on November 23, 2014.
She was a beloved sister, niece, aunt and cousin and a passionately dedicated nurse to her patients at Norwalk Hospital. Clare was the fourth of five children of Rita M. Keneally, (nee Lynch) and Joseph V. Keneally. She is survived by her aunts Mary Powers Lynch, Anne Lynch Hart and Joan Keneally, uncle Vincent T. Keneally and brothers Stephen M. Lynch, Gerald M. Keneally, Kenneth G. Keneally, J. Christopher Keneally and Joseph V. Keneally, Jr. and their wives. She leaves a splendid complement of specially loved cousins, nieces, nephews, grand-nieces and grand-nephews. As a child of the 1950s, young girl of the '60s and young adult of the '70s Clare lived through some exhilarating and tumultuous times. She survived a personal crisis in the early '80s and found her true calling. She became a Registered Nurse. For the next 25 years she excelled at giving compassionate care to everyone she met in the Intensive Care and Coronary Care units at Norwalk Hospital. She was deeply respected by all of her colleagues for her professionalism and true caring abilities. Clare balanced the intensity of being a front-line nurse with frequent travel. A childhood spent at Compo Beach in Westport kindled a deep affection for the New England coast. Clare vacationed all along the ocean shore and expanded her travels to both coasts of Canada. She leavened these excursions with visits to the desert Southwest and other destinations in America and Europe. One of her most cherished places to visit was close to home at the Keneally Christmas Tree Farm. She loved the peace and beauty amidst thousands of Christmas trees in one of the most tranquil corners of Fairfield County.
Clare also enjoyed music, especially jazz, and was an avid reader, playgoer, photographer and an inveterate devotee of the New York Times. She had a great fervor for all the arts and sought out galleries, museums, music and craft festivals everywhere she went. The family will have a celebration of Clare's life when the world is re-born in the spring of 2015. In lieu of flowers please consider a memorial gift to the Westport Public Library, 20 Jesup Rd., Westport, CT, 06880 or the Scleroderma Foundation, 59 Front St, Binghamton, NY 13905.

Published by Westport-News from Dec. 17 to Dec. 19, 2014.
Elizabeth J. Yoder - August 27th, 2022
Clare, you were witty, funny, and unique. We were close friends from Coleytown Elementary through adulthood. You were shy, and never went to reunions, but I would see you when I visited Westport. I'll never forget you.

Brian Klarman

Elizabeth J. Yoder - August 27th, 2022
Brian was a very gifted musician. He also drew the most amazing cartoons during math class (or was it Spanish class?). For some reason, there was a clavichord (being stored for someone) in the tiny house where I lived during high school, in addition to the resident Steinway upright piano in my bedroom. Brian would come over after school and play them both. What an amazing treat. He was an irrepressibly talented but tortured genius. One of a kind.
Brian Keane - July 17th, 2022
Brian Klarman was a brilliant musician. He was a "must see" in the jazz community of Boston when he was in school, he played at Windows on the World in New York, and toured with various jazz ensembles. I once played a tape of Brian improvising on a tune that I was about to record with Larry Coryell, and Larry called him "the reincarnation of Art Tatum." Brian recorded on my Bluenote CD "Common Planet" in 1992 and played amazing stuff on "At the Airport" from that record. Brian suffered from acute OCD, and other mental difficulties which eventually took over his life. He was paralyzed from the chest down for the last few years of his life, and Charlie Karp and I used to go over to visit him and pay our respects at least twice a year at his house in Fairfield, CT. He was a musician that we both deeply admired.

Susanne Klein

Deceased Date: 2013-08-21
Obituary:
Westport News, 8/23/2013.

Susanne Klein-Hertzel, 60, of Weston, Ct passed away on Wednesday, August 21, 2013, after a long and courageous battle with cancer. She was the beloved wife of Bob Hertzel, loving mother of Meredith Klein-Hertzel and Greg Klein-Hertzel. She was the daughter of the late Stanley Klein and Blanche Klein, and step daughter of Phyllis Klein. She leaves a brother, Kenneth of Trumbull, a sister, Carol of New York City, mother-in-law Sylvia Hertzel of Massachusetts, sister and brother-in-law Pam and Bob Krinsky of Massachusetts, aunt Rosiland Tobin of Trumbull, and various cousins, nieces and nephews. She also leaves her adopted family, the Kings and Merritts of Connecticut. Susanne was an art psychotherapist by training. She was active in all her children's activities as they were growing up. She was a Brownie leader, a book fair chair, a timer at Water Rat Swim meets, and driver and cheerleader for Meredith and Greg's stellar high school tennis careers. Susanne survived as a lung cancer patient, a double lung transplant recipient, and as a liver cancer patient. She had a tenacious will to live and brought great hope to other transplant patients she got to know. The medical community has hailed her as a hero for what she taught them, both as a patient and strong and inspiring human being. She will be sorely missed. Friends are invited to attend a memorial service for Susanne on Friday August 23rd (today) at 12:00 PM at the Unitarian Church 10 Lyons Plains Road Westport, CT. Donations may be made in Susanne's name to the Smilow Cancer Center at Yale New Haven Hospital PO Box 7611 New Haven, CT 06519, or to the Lung Transplant Program at the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center 200 Lothrop St. Pittsburgh, PA 15213
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Andrew Lewis

Elizabeth J. Yoder - August 27th, 2022
Andy Lewis, I was in love with you in first grade at Coleytown! I confessed this to you at one of our reunions and we had a wonderful chuckle. Rest in peace, my friend.
Fred Cantor - May 23rd, 2022
Andy Lewis, Rich Mervine, and I became friends at Coleytown El and remained friends until their respective deaths—in Andy’s case just a couple of nights before he was going to join a small group for a 50th-anniversary mini-reunion tour of Coleytown El. We were like three peas in a pod (or, perhaps more accurately, three nerds in a pod). We were each admittedly quirky. And, it was at one of our Staples reunions, that Andy commented that one of the things he loved most about our class was that he felt there were not traditional cliques. He believed there was a real crossover between people with different talents and skill sets. And I think Andy was absolutely right about that, as exemplified by the diverse friendships we had/have.

James Lomas

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Joan Marer

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Jere Maupin

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Richard Mervine

Fred Cantor - May 23rd, 2022
Andy Lewis, Rich Mervine, and I became friends at Coleytown El and remained friends until their respective deaths—in Andy’s case just a couple of nights before he was going to join a small group for a 50th-anniversary mini-reunion tour of Coleytown El. We were like three peas in a pod (or, perhaps more accurately, three nerds in a pod). We were each admittedly quirky. And, it was at one of our Staples reunions, that Andy commented that one of the things he loved most about our class was that he felt there were not traditional cliques. He believed there was a real crossover between people with different talents and skill sets. And I think Andy was absolutely right about that, as exemplified by the diverse friendships we had/have.

Katharine Moore

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Thomas Parise

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Karen Rosenbaum

Margie Sopkin - September 8th, 2022
Karen and I were good friends in junior high. She was way more sophisticated than I was, and I often wondered why she wanted to hang around with me, but we really had fun. We'd have sleepovers and sneak out at night to meet up with the boys and go pool hopping. Later when we were hanging out with the older boys, we'd stupidly leave a candle burning in the window when we sneaked out. That way, if the candle was still burning when we came home, we'd know that we weren't caught because surely my parents would have blown out the candle. We lost touch in our senior year but met up again briefly after college when she was living in NYC. It was just after the 20th reunion, which I did not know about until after the fact, that I called another friend to find out all the details and was told of Karen's passing. It was shocking and sad and still, whenever I think of Karen I wish I'd known she was ill. I would have reached out to her for sure, and reminded her of our awfully good times.

Valerie Ross

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Donna Royak

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Thomas Sarno

Deceased Date: 2009-11-26
Obituary:
The Westport News, 12/1/2009

Thomas Dominick Sarno, 56, of Westport and Boca Raton, Fla., died Nov. 26, 2009, at home.

Sarno was born in Norwalk, son of the late Dominick and Connie (Rizzi) Sarno. He had been a long-time resident of the Westport-Norwalk area and Boca Raton, Fla.

A jeweler and gemologist, Sarno was vice-president and co-owner of SZ Jewelry Manufacturers in Westport for 30 years. Sarno was a graduate of Staples High School and the Gemology Institute of America in New York City.

An avid motorcycle rider, he loved Harley Davidson Motorcycles and spent weekends enjoying rides on his bike and participating in motorcycle fund-raisers. Generous and loyal to his family and friends, Sarno lived life to the fullest; he traveled extensively as an outcome of both his adventurous spirit and his successful business.

Survivors include one brother, Jack Sarno and his wife, Annabelle, of Easton; three sisters, Palma Manes and her husband, Bruno, of Oxford, Frances Pollak and her husband, Phil, of Westport, and Antoinette Wrubel and her husband, Paul, of Half Moon Bay, Calif.; many nieces and nephews and his long-time business partner and friend, Kuti Zeevi and his wife, Nava.

A Mass of Christian burial took place Dec. 1 at Saint Luke Church, 49 Turkey Hill Road N., Westport. Interment was in Willowbrook Cemetery, Westport.

The Harding Funeral Home, 210 Post Road E., Westport, was in charge of arrangements. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to the Westport Police Benevolent Association, 50 Jesup Road, Westport, CT 06880.


Submitted by Bob Powers
Bob Powers - September 26th, 2022
Tommy was my friend and nearby neighbor in Junior High. We worked together pulling weeds at the Janson estate on Cross Highway, then later at the Merritt Superette. The latter included Sunday mornings at 0530 piecing together the NY Times so it would be ready for early pickup. He was a wicked mimic and clever class clown--delighted us and tortured Mr Sztaba in Coleytown JHS metal shop. Class size and shifting priorities separated us at Staples and thereafter. Never interested in following his Dad into barbering, he later had a successful jewelry messenger/delivery business when many of us hadn't even finished school. I would have liked to connect with him again.

Carol Schoke

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